Monday, December 27, 2010
Merry Christmas
On Christmas Eve, Phil, Ridley and I went to Phil's grandmother's home to what I lovingly like to call "Christmas Chaos." There are a bunch of kids running around and family members gathered. Ridley didn't know what to make of it all quite yet, but I'm sure it will soon become one of her favorite places to visit. Her Aunt Elizabeth told her all about Santa coming that night, and Ridley must have listened because she went to bed at 8:30pm (the earliest she's ever gone down for the night BY FAR). She woke up at 4am, but went right back to sleep.
The next morning, we opened a few gifts at the house, but honestly I didn't wrap many of her gifts. I didn't see a point really. We put a tree up, bought her a stocking and her first christmas ornament and I felt like that was enough for a first time mom to handle with a two and a half month old!
We went to Phil's mom's house (Grandma!) and Ridley had plenty of gifts to open there. Her Aunt Felicia in particularly spoiled her with a big bag of toys and clothes. She was so well behaved too! She was in such awe of all the bright colors on the tree and on the wrapping paper. She also loves to watch her cousins run around the house with her Aunt Elizabeth. Philip made his famous mashed potatoes and I made banana pudding--my nana's recipe.
After dinner we returned home and had a nice little afternoon with my mom (Grammie!) and took it easy. It was nice and relaxing. And Grammie brought over lemon squares and a pie.
We ended the day with a short walk down our road with the dogs. We got Ridley all bundled up and put her in the front carrier, a great way to walk off some of that turkey and banana pudding.
Hope everyone else had a great holiday as well! Now it's time to post pictures, take down decorations, and put away gifts. Whew!
Friday, December 24, 2010
Hands On Genius
Tuesday, December 21, 2010
Road Trip
Thursday, December 16, 2010
2 Month Checkup
Ridley had her two month checkup on the 9th. She weighed in at 12 pounds, 8 ounces which puts her in the 90-95% for weight! She's in the 75% for head circumference and 50% for length. She's growing well!
Smiles and Songs
Wednesday, December 15, 2010
Sweet Sleep
Sunday, December 12, 2010
Bottle Battles
She'll have to take it eventually. I will be going back to work in January and there won't be an alternative for her!
Saturday, December 4, 2010
Trick or Treat and Giving Thanks
Catching Up
Thursday, October 28, 2010
3 weeks old
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
Birth Story
Thursday, October 21, 2010
Happy Birthday, Ridley!
Ridley chose October 8th, 2010 at 3:27pm as her birthday! She weighed 8 pounds 6 ounces and measured 19.5 inches long. We are so happy that she is with us! Tomorrow she'll be 2 weeks old! It's hard to believe it's been 2 weeks already! I've been slack in updating this blog for obvious reasons. But I just wanted to touch base quickly with a quick picture of the new Buehler family addition. I plan to update the blog with our birth story and more pictures later when I find the time (aka in between feedings and while Ridley is sleeping).
Wednesday, October 6, 2010
Non-Stress Test and Ultrasound
Then they performed the non-stress test. I sat in a bed with a monitor on my tummy for thirty minutes while they measured Ridley's heart rate and my contractions with how Ridley reacted to them. She did wonderfully! The nurse said that when I had a contraction, it was good that Ridley's heart rate increased, showing that the placenta was giving her plenty of nutrients to get excited.
Then my midwife Mary came and checked up on me. She can't tell me when I'll go into labor of course, but she said she was very confident that I would go on my own before needing to be induced by next Wednesday. That lifted a big weight off my chest. The looming "deadline" of getting an induction next week was probably my biggest worry.
Thanks for all the good thoughts and prayers!
Sunday, October 3, 2010
The World is My Waiting Room
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
As Long as We're Waiting, Here's a Picture!
Phil took this last weekend (39 weeks and 4 days prego). We were in the arboretum here in Wilmington (the same place we were married). Phil had a photography assignment and took a bunch of great photos of plants and flowers. And then we walked around. I spent ALL day walking. We left the house around 10:00am and came back home around 7:30pm and all we did in between was was walk walk walk in stores, around town, along our street.
It was a good day.
Tuesday, September 28, 2010
Happy Due Date!
Come on you two, let's do this!
Monday, September 27, 2010
Why Natural Childbirth?
I am very determined to have a natural childbirth. When I tell people this, I've gotten some pretty interesting reactions. From "Oh...well, good luck," to "Oh yeah? Well, you might as well tie your uterus to the bumper of that truck over there and pull the kid out that way; it would be less painful." (Thanks for that visual, by the way, Woman I Just Met).
But the most common reaction is simply curiosity. People want to know why I'm not opting for drugs. Why am I choosing to experience pain that is supposed to be incomparable to any other pain on earth?
I have a lot of reasons why I want to do this au' naturale. Google the question and you'll find many other women around the country giving the same reasons: because I can, because any drug given to a pregnant woman has a multiplied effect on the baby, because you never really know how a drug is going to affect you personally, because when labor is over I want it to be over and not still recovering from pain meds, because I don't want an epidural to possibly slow down my contractions and then have to be given MORE drugs to "speed me up," because...you get the idea.
Let me express that I believe this choice is for each individual woman to make. I'm not commenting or judging any other woman's decision, because the choice she made was what was best for her and her family. This is simply MY reasoning for what is best for ME and MY family. Also, I’m not saying that I won't accept medical intervention if the need arises. Of course I know that birthing is unpredictable, and I want to put the safety of Ridley and myself above all else. But when it comes to choosing my first option of how I ideally want to give birth, I choose natural.
Childbirth is THE life experience of life experiences. I have at times thought of myself as being a collector of life experiences. After all, what are we given life for if not to be experienced? We weren’t made to sit and watch from the side lines, but to get up and play the game. I get a lot of pleasure out of getting the opportunity to experience something for the first time after hearing other people try and describe it. Maybe "pleasure" isn't always the appropriate word for life experiences that aren't so positive, but I always at least find the value of having experienced something first hand for the first time.
When I was a kid, this meant riding the biggest roller coasters that I was tall enough to ride, but also getting my first ear ache. In middle school it meant kissing a boy, but also getting dumped for the first time. In high school it was testing out my independence with friends and going to prom, but also finding myself on the wrong side of the rumor mill. In college it was traveling the world, but also feeling the full weight of being homesick. After college it was getting married to an amazing man and earning money in a field of work I enjoyed, but also experiencing my first job interview rejection.
I have never been one who wanted to "dull" an experience, good or bad. Every experience we have shape who we are, how we think, and how we interact with other people in our lives. Pain is painful, but it can also be useful.
Giving birth to a child is about the most kick a$$ thing there is on the planet! What's more kick a$$ than giving birth to a new life? Not much. Talk about a "life experience!" Sorry Arnold and Sylvester, but nothing you could ever do on celluloid could match the awesome power and strength that women possess while giving birth. And half the human population doesn’t even get an opportunity to experience it! It's an experience that is only offered to women.
I understand I can experience childbirth and still have an epidural. Every woman who gives birth, no matter what her particular circumstances, has an undeniably strong memory of the event (of course!). But I’m a purist. I want to be completely present, cognizant and clear headed during the experience. I want to be in the moment. I don't want to dull any sensation because every sensation is part of the experience. I want to drink it all in and have it with me, knowing that you don’t get many opportunities to experience this Life Experience (yes, with a capital “L” and “E”). It may be the most intense pain that I'll ever feel in my life, but I'll know what that really means, completely. I'll know what every step of the labor journey feels like, from the first contraction to the last push.
If unforeseeable things occur and I end up getting an epidural or having a Cesarean section, then that is the experience that I will have collected. I don't want to feel disappointed if that happens, because of course the most important thing is the next set of life experiences I get to have throughout Ridley's life. But as an ideal, going natural is the way I want to experience childbirth.
So now you've read the entire long winded post and you can go ahead and say it: "Spoken like a woman who's never given birth." Yep. That's exactly my point.
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
Maternity Photos
The Countdown is On...
Well, I feel great. No signs of labor or imminent labor. I was 1 cm at my last checkup, which I was told is "perfect" for 38 weeks. I have a checkup again tomorrow, but I'm not sure if I'll check my dilation again. I think I'll go crazy if it's still at 1cm. I think it's best not to know for now. I'll probably check next week though. Excitement has definitely hit, but honestly I'm trying to conserve it since I don't know if Ridley will be on time or two weeks late!
In other update news, Phil and I went to a breastfeeding class a couple of weekends ago. I know Phil just went to support me, but when we got there I think he got a lot out of it (and he definitely wasn't the only partner there). Of course the best teacher is experience, so I'm anxious to try out some of the techniques we learned.
I'm still going to prenatal yoga every week, which has been fantastic. I'm definitely the furthest along in the class now. It's strange because I remember starting the class and not really even showing yet. And then one by one there would be news of another one of the women giving birth. Finally one day after talking about the latest birth, the instructor casually asked, "So who's the next one due in here?" I looked around the room trying to access who the next Momma was going to be before noticing everyone else looking at me! "Ah, I guess I am!" It was a strange feeling and exciting at the same time.
7 days until due date. I know there won't be an immediate blog update if anything should happen, but I promise Phil and I will get the word out. We're on Ridley's schedule now!
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
13 days!
Ridley gets the hiccups EVERY day! At least once. It's hilarious and I wonder if she'll continue to get hiccups once she is out in the world. I heard another wives' tale that frequent hiccups are a sign of a full head of hair (although I can't think of any logical reason why this would actually be true), so we'll have to see!
Last Sunday night I was having quite a few Braxton Hicks and it made me realize just how close I really am to due date! Of course I didn't feel a single one the entire next day. It's impossible to tell how far away Ridley's birthday really is. I have a checkup at the end of this week that I'm looking forward to if only to perhaps find out if my body is progressing towards labor yet or not (last time I was checked two weeks ago I was 1/2 a cm dilated).
But in the meantime, here are a few pictures of me at 38 weeks. I don't think the pictures really do justice to the size of my baby belly, but it's close.
Thursday, September 2, 2010
Nine Months
People are asking me how excited I am. And I'm very excited! I am also nervous, scared, happy, curious, etc. I'm just a ball of emotions. Phil is excited and I'd say a little nervous too.
We received our car seat and stroller yesterday (thanks, Tammi!), I have washed her little clothes with mild detergent, and I have all the cloth diapers I could fit under the changing table. We even have a borrowed cradle all set up and ready to rock (thanks, Felicia and Wendy!). And when we travel or go to Grammy's and Grandma's, we have an entire portable nursery (aka a play yard with bassinet, changing pad and mobile--thanks, Mom!). I guess we're all set up, though it doesn't entirely feel like we're ready! Does it ever?
Any gamblers out there want to place bets on when Ridley will decide to arrive? ;-)
Here is my 36 week and 1 day tummy photo: